Murphy's Laws for Moms

As a twin, I've been told numerous times how lucky I am and how other people wish that they, too, could be a twin.  But, as a multiple, there are some things - both good and bad - that people don't understand about being a multiple.  And, as an identical twin, there are even more things that people don't understand about having someone else who looks pretty much exactly like you. 1. You share the same birthday. CON: Yes, you share the same birthday.  This also means that you most likely share the same birthday party.  So, now you have to compromise on what you're going to do to celebrate your birthday.  And, while I never really remember this being a problem for my sister and me on our birthdays, it could be a problem.  After all, everyone wants their birthday to be special.   PRO: You never have to worry about celebrating your birthday on your own.  Even if everyone else forgets, your twin never will.  It's also a great day to remember j...

Are you my mother? Most days, I strive to keep balance in my parenting. I don't want to upset the status quo because that upsets my children which then upsets me. My children do very well with things being the same...that is until they see me as a twin mom. No, I do not have any sets of twins of my own.  I am an identical twin and, growing up, my sister and I did not enjoy playing twin tricks on people. Very few people could tell us apart anyways. We had - and still have - extremely different personalities. I like to say I'm the beautiful one but...well if you're an identical twin, you see the fault in this statement. We look the same. We're both intelligent, just in different areas. When separated, we have our own unique personalities that perhaps took a bit longer to mature due to the twin personality we have when together. You might best describe this as we didn't know who we were until we weren't "the twins." As we've grown and sta...