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Make the ask

We've all heard the Biblical expression, "ask and you shall receive."  But, how many times do we actually believe it?  Most of the time, we think our asks are either too trivial, or they're too ridiculous.  Perhaps we don't have enough confidence in who we are and; therefore, think we're unworthy of certain perks and benefits.  I think all of these thoughts are bologna.  If we ask, we may be surprised with what we can receive.  I intend to test this hypothesis through this blog.

I am going to ask for things that I want and then tell you, my hopefully soon to be plenty readers, the results - whether good or bad.  I fully anticipate getting a lot of "no" responses, but I'm not going to let them stop me.  I'll keep on asking - not making any of it personal.  After all, it's generally not personal when someone says "no."  It's a matter of fact that something cannot be done.

So, here are the ground rules for my asks...

1.  I will not lie to get something.
2.  I will only ask for things I really would like to have.
3.  I will ask for the ridiculous.
4.  I will ask for the impossible.
5.  I will not take "no" personally.
6.  I will not take the first "no" as an end-all-be-all.  If I can't get what I asked for, I will ask what they CAN give me.
7.  I will learn and move on.

I hope you enjoy the ride I'm about to embark upon.  I know I'm looking forward to it!

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