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Leadership Mom: Vision

Before we delve too deep into the strategies and planning on our leadership as moms, we have to first talk about what our vision is.

We aren't talking about our daily mission that - if you're like me - is often just to survive the day.  Nor are we talking about the generic response, "To raise well-mannered children."  Because, really...there's a lot more to it than just having good manners when you send them out the door at 18.

Our vision is our grandiose dream - the ideal - of who we are as an organization (a.k.a., family).  This is the perfect scenario - our dream - with no failures or setbacks.  When I think about my vision for my family, I think about having patience; developing deep, meaningful relationships with my kids and husband; working together as a family; making a positive impact on our extended family and the neighbors around us (maybe even around the nation and world), staying healthy and safe, and continually learning.

So, perhaps I'm asking for world peace...but it's the vision I would love to have for my family.

However, I also have to think about what my kids and husband also want out of our family.  If I develop my own vision, but it's not the vision that my husband and kids have, then we'll be traveling down two different paths and we are going to break down.  We have to get buy in from the rest of the family.

Perhaps your kids just want a trip to Disney World.  Your husband may just want to have financial security.  As we plan our vision, it MUST encompass everyone's vision for the family.  This is a part of being a mom leader.  You cannot just move ahead full force, pulling your family along with you.  There will be turmoil happening behind you until, one day, you look back and see that no one is happy and the path you thought you were plowing looks a lot like Lightning McQueen's first attempt at re-paving the highway.



Your homework: Sit down with your family and talk about what you each would love for your ideal family to include.  Be creative.  Compromise.  Work together.  Don't just rush through this exercise to get to the next step.  Be sure that every single family member has a say in your vision.  Then, if you'd like to share, bring it back here and include it in the comments.


My Family's Vision:
Our family exists to learn, grow, and live life filled with curiosity, fun, good health, and love for God and all of His creations.

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