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Feeling Sexy: Before and After Baby

Every woman wants to feel sexy.  The definition for each of us may be slightly different.  For some, it's wearing stilettos while doing dishes or taking an hour to fix your hair that way you love to fix it, but never have time.  Others may feel sexy while dancing to that favorite song that you and your college roommate danced to while getting ready for a night on the town.  For me, it's what's underneath that counts.  Yes, I'm talking about the undergarments.

Let's face it, during pregnancy and afterward, it's hard to find nice bras and panties.  The nursing bras feel more like sports bras or the kind that your grandmother would wear.  You can't wear any Wonderbra, Very Sexy, or other bras that keep things in place.  No, you're relegated to the no underwire, no push up bras that don't cause clogged ducts and are padded - not for the sake of enhancing, but for the purpose of absorbing milk should you decide not to wear nursing pads.  The panties aren't really even panties - they're underwear.  They're the kind you bought because you didn't want to ruin your good panties.  They're as close to Granny panties as you can get while still being able to say they're not actually Granny panties.

While my husband keeps trying to remind me that he still finds me sexy (bless his heart!), I found a few ways to work around the lack of sexiness in order to make myself feel better - and sexier.  I found a local store that sells camisoles with lace around the neckline and hem.  I bought them in a size bigger than what I would typically buy (after all, I have to be able to nurse with them on - and they're not made for nursing).  I wear them under my shirts to add a little bit of embellishment to my otherwise drab attire - so as not to bring attention to the spit up or pureed carrots I tried to clean off my shoulder.

With all the other stresses that lead to the feeling of being a bit frumpy (lack of sleep, loss of hair, increased weight, etc.), sometimes it's just the little things that matter to make you feel sexy once again.  I encourage you to find that little something - whether it's making Daddy watch Baby so you can give yourself a pedicure, actually fix your hair, take more than a five-minute shower, or just take a bubble bath.  I can guarantee that, when you make the time for you - even if just a little time - you'll feel better and it will resonate into everyone around you!

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  1. Hahaha this is probably TMI, but I've preferred thongs up until now because they look kinda sexy even if they're just cheap cotton and two sizes larger than I usually wear.

    Oh boy, that was probably definitely TMI.

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