Skip to main content

The unicorn debate

As a parent, I have found myself saying - and arguing - things that I never imagined I would.   
We don't pet puppy bottoms.  
Food does not go in the potty.  
I've just answered your same question fifteen times, 
so why don't you tell me what you think the real answer is.
Yet, there seems to always be an argument that Murphy gets involved in and I simply cannot winLately, this is the unicorn debate.

The unicorn debate began when my daughter was approaching her fifth birthday.  She watched a Dora episode in which there is a magical unicorn who can fly the children around the sky.  It was such a happy unicorn and so, obviously, my daughter wanted one.  When I told her that unicorns are not real, the debate began.

The debate started as a simple statement of, "Mommy, I want a real unicorn for my birthday.  One with magical powers that can fly."  The response that unicorns are not real was not understood.  "No, Mommy, I want a real unicorn.  This is the only thing I want for my birthday."  I responded that we might be able to find a stuffed unicorn or we could dress our dog up as a unicorn.  Apparently, that response was incorrect as a dog with a unicorn horn is "simply a dog dressed up as a unicorn - it's not real."  Which led to the discussion about what is real versus not real.  

The comprehension of real versus imaginary or fake is not an easily understood concept for a young child.  In their minds, it is all real.  They see pictures of make-believe creatures.  They watch them on cartoons or in games.  They hear other children talking about them.  So, to them, they are all real.  But, to try and argue this point that there are things that are not real is not as easy as it would sound.  Logic is not an innate characteristic - imagination is.

So, how do you argue in a debate that can never really be won?  Me, I like to use my magical powers of diversion.  Sometimes this comes in the form of a bribe.  Cookies work wonders.  Other times, it comes in the form of simply yelling "Squirrel!" (Which could potentially bring up the possibility of having our house float away with balloons, thus bringing you back to a very similar debate).  But, lately, I've begun simply redirecting the topic of the reality of unicorns into the topic of what would you do with a unicorn and where would it stay?  Thankfully, our house and yard aren't quite big enough to hold a unicorn - especially one that flies.

Now, can anyone help me win the debate of magical powers like Elsa's so that she can turn things into snow and ice?


Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Leadership Mom: SWOT Analysis

In business, leaders often analyze our Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats through a SWOT analysis.  So, if we are going to look at our role as moms as being the greatest leadership opportunity to us, let's start with analyzing ourselves and our kids.  Here's the SWOT I developed for my family: Family SWOT Analysis As a doting mother, there are hundreds of strengths that I could put up here for my kids.  Their hugs, kisses, bedtime stories and prayers, the fact that they come to me when they're seeking healing from an injury (physical or emotional), the notes and drawings they make for me, their precious hearts when they try to help me or that they've learned how to use the Keurig to bring me coffee in the morning...I could go on and on. Now, here's the part where we get honest with ourselves.  Yes, we love our kids and we love our family (or, hopefully, most of the time), but we are not perfect.  Nor should we be perfect.  As we analyze oursel

Breastfeeding: Top 10

I've had several requests for another post about breastfeeding.  So, here it is! Before having a baby, I thought that breastfeeding was going to be easy.  After all, it's an innate practice of all mammals.  How hard can it really be?  Now, after seven months of breastfeeding, I can tell you that it is not easy.  BUT, the good news is, it gets easier!   As I've mentioned in previous blogs, I had a horrible time beginning with breastfeeding.  It was extremely painful and I dreaded nursing times.  I felt like a horrible mom.  I didn't want to feed my child because I knew the pain that I was going to have to endure.  There are moments - through pure exhaustion - when I couldn't control myself and screamed.  Thankfully, I had a husband who was supportive and continued to encourage me and provide all of the support that he could in the form of talking to me, rubbing my back and shoulders, and assuring me that things would get better. We all know that breastmilk is the abs

Establishing Night Time Sleep

Since I assume that most of you reading this are either mothers or women who want to eventually be mothers, then we each know that our child (or child-to-be) is the brightest and most well-developed child out there (who wouldn't agree?!).  Our prodigy child wants to see and do everything - especially at night.  And, as mothers, we all know who gets to wake up during the middle of the night to teach Baby that, when the moon is out, we sleep...us!  A mother's physical need for sleep seems to diminish during the first months after Baby arrives.  But, our mental need for sleep is still ever present reminding us - day after day - that we are exhausted. Well, establishing night time sleep isn't impossible, and this blog will tell you how I did it and had my baby sleeping through the night by nine weeks old (which, for her age, was six hours of blessed, uninterrupted sleep). I read many books prior to Baby's arrival about establishing a good sleep habit.  On Becoming Baby Wis